double standards

           So in Arizona, the governor veto a bill that would give business owners freedom of refusing services to people based on the owners religion preference. Now I don't know much about the bill, I have heard it was written poorly. I also heard that it was written because a business owner got sued for all they got because they refused to do business for a homosexual couple. Now I have to get this out I don't hate homosexual people, I won't bash on them or anything like that. I have friends that are homosexuals and I know as a christian people find that hard to believe. I know that only through God only people can change, so I leave that persons' sin in Gods hands, I am not the one to judge or to condemn them to hell. So with that said I will go on with my blog :).
        I don't understand why so many people are against that bill. The way I see it is that, there have been so many laws passed to give homosexuals equal rights just like everyone else. Why not give christian or other religions the same respect and opportunity.  People are afraid to discriminate the homosexuals because of the back lash or the harassment they might receive, but what about the straight people getting discriminated because they are not homosexual, what about the straight people being bashed as homophobic because that's not what they believe in. We have rights as well and who is protecting our rights and who is standing up for us. If a person says they don't agree with homosexuals they are labeled a bad person or a homophobic or much more and much worse. I feel like the governor did not protect every ones rights by vetoing that bill. I feel like she did it because she wanted the popular vote. I did not listen to what she had to say because its all excuses and blah blah blah. I don't see why people find it hard to stand up for what they believe in. We cant be wishy washy and abandon our beliefs just because we are afraid of what society is going to label us. So here I am standing up for what I believe. I believe business owners have the right to refuse service to anyone based on what they believe, that was a right that was given to us by our founding fathers.
       Now I was talking to my husband and we got on the subject about getting a job, and I remember a friend telling me that she wouldn't get hired unless she took out the pink out of her hair. So that got me thinking that what if I don't get hired because my hair is a certain color. OK ok ok my hair won't always be pink, but I know it won't always be my natural color hehe :). But I was thinking if I don't get a particular job because of my hair, I think that would be discrimination. I wonder if I was a homosexual and my hair was a certain color would they still refuse the job to me? Would I be discriminated against because I am straight? Then what is gonna happen when the straight people are being discriminated against because they are not homosexual. So I guess the laws now are double standard because it will only matter if your homosexual but not if your straight or Christian? I am assuming when the founding fathers founded our nation they didn't think that people would be questioning every little sentence, every little law that was made. I know one thing for sure is that if this double standard is gonna keep happening I will be for sure that I will stand up for my rights and my sexuality as well as my Christianity.

Loyalty

You know what I have been noticing is that people are loosing the meaning of that word. People are so fast to turn in each other.  Loyalty is a part of life, at least to me it is very important. What I don't understand is how easy people are so quick to abandon others.

      Well let's start with friends. I see a lot of friends so quick to turn their back on their friends. Starting rumors, talking behind their backs, telling the secrets, or going around to others instead of going to that person. I don't understand how hard is it to be a loyal friend? To be honest and straight forward with each other. I don't understand staying rumors about people. Be happy with who you are and what you have. If you are a true friend you will be happy for your friend no matter what!  Even if you think they don't deserve it you still stand by your friend and support them no matter what. Don't go around telling people what you need to tell your friend.  One thing that gets me is when I find or through other people what my friend said about me. Grow Up and talk to me like an adult it shows respect. I respect you enough to let you what I think to tell you to your face have the same respect for me.

        Another place I see where loyalty is failing is in families. You are family!!! What I know is that if there is something I need to tell me family I tell them, I don't need anyone else saying anything.  Plus what I tell my family from my heart, I expect to be kept inside the family. I don't wanna hear that my family went to tell someone what I said about them in confidence, or in asking advice.  Again if I have something to say I go tell thay person, but I ask my family because I value what they have to say.  So when I see other family betraying each other and not talking, they lost loyalty to each other. So stay with family because friends come and go but family is forever they may be weird, crazy,lost, drunk, bad choices, or all of the above. You love and be loyal.
If you don't know how to be loyal you won't know loyalty when it's in your life.          
           Loyalty is important, backstabbing and rumor starting, and gossiping is not right. It doesn't make life easier, it makes life more drama and more stress and less full of love. Love each other be loyal to each other so you can have people loyal back to you. It make life better. :) I am loyal all the time I am honest all the time and I won't change. one thing people will not have to question about me is my loyalty and my honesty. I am a good friend to the end but you betray me and you lost my friendship and my trust. Sure I'll forgive you but my trust in you and my loyalty to you is and will no longer be there, yes I can rebuild it but it will be hard. So don't backstab me because you will loose a great friend, I can promise you that! 

Situations

So this post has been on my mind a lot but I didn't want to post it because everyone I know has a situation they are going through. I don't want anyone to think that I am writing this about them. I am not and this is from what I have seen in my life.  So here it goes...
      These have been times where I observed people in situations and I have tried to give advice because I been down that road. Then of course they get mad and don't talk to me for a long time. Then when I get back in contact with them, they are in the same situation only is gotten worse. I have been in many situations over and over and over and the only way I broke that cycle was when I learned from it and grew up and moved forward.  I sees that people don't learn from it. They keep making the same decisions that end them back up in the same situation. Then they ask why does this keep happening to me, or they blame others for that. I say in my head that I been trying to tell you to grow from in and learn not to make that choice because your going to end up back where you started or don't go back with that person because your going to end up back in the same spot. Then sometimes I can't help but think that they like that kind of pain or drama because they keep going back. They don't listen to anyone who tries to help them. I just don't understand.
      But I do know a solution, his name is Jesus christ.  I think the only way I git out of my situation was because God helped me. I had family praying for me and I listened to the advice they had for me. Yes it was hard and sometimes I didnt think I had the strength to do. Yes I didn't want to leave that place or person that was getting me into that situation. For the sake of my kids and myself I left. I believe that God was there 100 percent.  So I see people and their situations and I now can't help but think only God can help them and I am that instrument used to bring them to God. Its up to you ro them to make that choice to accept His help and get out of the situation and come into Gods blessing and what he has for you.  Yes its not going to be perfect but I do know its a lot easier because He is there for me and I am not doing it alone.  He strengths me when I feel like I can't go on. Trust me it does get better all God asks of you is to let him in your heart.
     

Tell it like it is

So there is one thing I can't seem to understand about people these days. I was brought up to take responsibility for the things we do or to own up to what we did. I know I am not the only one that was taught that growing up, so what I don't get is when it comes to the things we say people don't own up to it or think they have to lie about what they say?  I can say from my personal experience that that was the hardest issue I dealt with. I used to lie all the time, but once I got saved and became a mom I saw my words have an effect. That's when I chose with the help of God I started to watch what I say and own up to what I say. I have lost many friends because of that. On the flip side of that I ask people if is true if they did say that and they boldly life to my face!  I am trying not to start fights or cause problems but the way I look at it is how do I know I did something wrong if you won't tell me.  I want to correct myself and become a better person but how do I do that if no one tells me what I did wrong?
         Now I have learned that there is a way to go about asking or even telling someone something. Yes there is a lot of people in this world that can't handle being told anything and to be honest I avoid those people, because they are not willing to learn and grow. There have been many times where I have been told my tone was very rude or even disrespectful, what those people don't know is I am not saying what is really on my mind. That was a side note. Hehe but I think as humans and Christian people we should learn to grow. If someone said something that bothers us we should go and talk about it, learn from it,  and move on. If we see people going down a path that only leads to destruction and we can help them let's use our word and help. If we are that person that is going down that path let's be open to direction. Let's view things from other point of view. I always ask why did they. ... what caused that. ... what can I learn. If we did this there would be a lot less division in the church as well as gossip in the church.  We are there to help each other grow in the Lord, not think that just because we are further along in our walk with God than others we are better than them. God's uses everyone.