New parenting called co-parenting

Hello!! So I don't know if you guys know but I am a step mom. So all together with my husband we have 6 kids all together. But growing up my dad left my mother and remarried another woman. Now my parents divorce was bad and rough all around. I heard my mom being mad at my dad. On the flip side I have had my dad leave me stranded, plan things and not show up. I have also heard the lady he was with bad mouth my mom. So it wasn't a pretty picture at all. I always looked at this situation and always promised myself I would never do that cuz as a child that have gone through that, it was horrible. It really tainted my view on life. So I always felt like no child ever have to go through that. At least if I have a way to stop it I would. Which explains why I want to become a social worker.
            So I grew up had kids and got married...in that order lol. But yeah I became a step mom to 2 beautiful children. I know some detail of my husband divorce but not to much because it is in the past and we should leave it in the past. I have reached out to the ex to let her know I am here to help not cause any problems, also to let her know I am here to stay I won't let her kids down. I guess it was tough on her at that time because she rejected me. At that time I didn't know what I was doing and I was upset why she didn't accept me.
             My husband and I have been married for 5 years, together for 9 years and now her and I are at a point where she can trust me and my husband. I saw on instagram where parents use their kids to get back at thier ex's. Or that they punish the kids to hurt the ex. That really hurt me to think that there are people that actually use thier kids to get back to their ex's or to hurt the ex. They are only being the kids and raising a generation that will grow up with a tainted view on life and grow up with a chip on thier shoulders. On the flip side I saw a group on instagram a group on co-parenting. Where the ex's together with thier other spouses raise their kids together.
          I am all for the whole co-parenting!! I don't want my step kids to worry about not being able to talk to their mom around me. I want to be able to have a peaceful relationship with thier mom where she knows if she can't make it to a game or do a certain project I will be there to help. That we can work together as a team to raise these kids to know that even tho thier parents split up they are still looking out what's best for them no matter what. So for my family this is soooo weird to see a birthday party where the ex comes and celebrates as well. All we know is the bad side of a divorce. I grew up knowing the bad, so this whole co-parenting is new to me but with the help of my husband I am determined to help raise the kids. In the end its all about making these kids life better. To raise these kids with a positive view on life. That no matter what life brings you, you can do it with a good view on life.

Teachers

Hello!! I am back!! Well I started working since October of last year. I work as a para educator at a school. Not the school my kids go to but in the same school district. The last time I worked as a teacher I wasn't married. So when my first day of school it felt so weird to hear myself being called by my married name. On the flip side before I was married I always wanted to be called Mrs. Nez lol. So anyways back to my job. I work with all grade from kinder to 6th. I don't have one particular student I work with all day u have many students I work with all day. I do enjoy what I do very much. I work closely with the special ed teacher of both lower grades and higher grades. I see how the teachers treat these teachers and myself. As well as I see how they act in the lunch room and I have to say it's not very pretty.
      First of all I have a request to all teachers out there PLEASE TREAT YOUR SPECIAL ED TEACHERS WITH MORE RESPECT. They are teachers just like you. Except they take that extra time to help the student understand what they are learning. I totally understand that teachers are supper busy. I myself have wanted to become a teacher so I understand the job. Being on this side of the job I see that special ed teachers work a whole lot harder than normal teachers. They have to battle with the attitudes and the behavior issues. Normal teachers can ignore it and call someone else to come handle that student or focus on the other kids in the classroom. But for special ed teachers who do they call? They are the calvary. So I noticed that when my teacher calls to have her students come for group sessions the teachers give her attitude. They respond as if her time don't matter. Then the kids pick up on that and start to not respond to her after all the hard work she put into these kids. So just a word to teachers, special ed teachers are doing work so that is not hard for you. Work together on geeking the student be the best they can be.  Your petty attitudes effect the student, how they learn. If they see that your not into wanting them to understand what they are learning, they won't want to learn.
     Now about lunch time.  So I go sit in the teacher lounge to go eat my lunch. I notice that all these teachers sit in cliques. So of corse me being new I sit alone cuz I don't fit into any cliques. Can you believe it!! I don't fit into any cliques. Who would have thought lol. So me being the nice person I am. ...I go sit in all the chairs.  :) oh my goodness they get so upset!  They acted like if I just banged up thier car!! They even stop talking when I walk in. So I don't get why they have to act like.  So I try and talk to all new people that come in. I am even good friends with the custodians in the school and the cafeteria workers.  So whenever I need anything they help me right away. With the teachers I hear on the walkie talkie saying they will get to it soon.  I can't help but smile.  Now at my girls school all the teachers talk to me even the new ones. Even the one that didn't like me at first! So I don't get why two different schools with two different types of teachers. 
   I like my job and I have grown attached to the kids I work with.  I get along with everyone I work with even if they don't really like me, I smile and wave to all of them.  I make the best of everyday even if the kids misbehave and are rude to me. I just wanted to take the time and say what I have noticed going on at the school as well as give a word of advice to all the teachers out there and all the people who wanna be teachers.  Take a minute and get to know everyone and be nice to your special ed teachers. They deal with a lot more than you think.