Kids how are we raising them

Ok as a mother of 4 girls I can't help but look at how we are raising our kids. As a person who was raised in a single mother home I had my share of troubles lol. So I look at my girls and can't help think oh goodness what do I have in store for me lol. But I must say between my husband and I our girls are pretty ok. I mean no they are not perfectbut no they are not trouble makers either (the jury is still out on my youngest lol ) take my oldest, I had a meeting with the teacher to get on the same page and I found out my daughter had a situation at school.  As she talked about it was like oh no girl drama already!! But then she said " I don't like drama, I try to stay out of it and not be around it. " I had to ask the teacher did I hear what I thought I heard and the teacher laughed and said yes that only my daughter and 1 other girl are not involved in this drama!!! I had to hold on to my chair lol. Later when we got home I was so surprised that my very own daughter stays out of drama!!! It still trips me out lol but I did let her know that makes me so proud of her. And well my other girls are the same easy to please and open to anything and very thankful and loving and I can't help but thank God for all of it, because I know on my own I can't do it.
          I have friends and my own sister that home school their kids. There are times where I think I can home school them, I know when we move to NM I will home school for a year but I also have concerns about that. I mean we are raising our kids and teaching them to survive the real world. So are we helping them by keeping them home away from the real world? The real world is the big test how we did as parents, what we taught them, and how we taught them. I mean they still have to go in the world and get a job if they don't know how to interact with authority figures is a big show on how they were raised.  My girls go to public school and that right there is my test. How they react, respond, and interact with other people is a big reflection on me. Don't get me wrong if you can home school and shelter your kids then by all means do it I want to try I know it'll be hard for me but I do know one thing I won't be sheltering my kids.
        I see parents teaching the age old "do as I say not as I do". But I am noticing the kids are doing just as the patents.  As parents we have to look at our actions and think is this how I want my child to act? OK yes let's look at me lol I am opinionated and I don't hold back nothing.  I think would I want my daughters like me and I say yes because in this world if a person doesn't speak up for themselves they will get taken advantage of. I warn my girls that there are people out there that will take advantage of them and their friendship. To guard your heart because life doesn't care about age, race, or body size. When it hits you it will hit you hard. 
      So we have to look at our kids are we raising people that will be a productive person to society or a menace. Never ever teach your child "do as I do" they will always do as you do no matter what. As a patent, when offer kids go into the world and live on their own, will we as parents pass the test?  Will our kids succeed or will they be 30 and moving back home with mom with all their kids and wife?  The goal for kids is to raise them well enough that when they get older and as you get older they will take care of you and not put you in a resting home.

Seek encouragement

Why is it when someone feels down or sad or just beat up by life they don't go ask for help or encouragement?  I know why I personally don't because I get shy or scared people will not understand what I am going through.  I am learning tho that when I do decide to open up and say something someone comes up to me and says "I feel the same way" or "I know exactly what you mean" or "u am going through the exact same thing" then after that I feel better that I said something. So here I am saying something.
     So my husband started a second job he works from 7 am to 1 am the next morning. It's been really hard for me. I don't know about everyone else but I have grown used to my husband being around. He became my best friend, my companion, my partner. So I for used to him being with me a lot. I am hurting right now. With these late night of staying up waiting for him my mind starts to go places I try and pray to keep away from but hey I am a woman, we crazy! !😉 so I start to feel really lonely and sad. I start to think he must be talking to other women because he doesn't seem to be as lonely as I feel. Someone else must be filling in my spot. And then when he misses events we would do as a family with my girls school or church really gets to me. 😖😭 I just wanna cry and give in to my emotions. The only thing that is keeping me from breaking down is I won't be able to stop and I don't want my girls to see me like that.
     I don't know how women who have husband's who are in the military do it. I give you ladies gold stars!!! 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟 also to the ladies who have husband's who work in other states too. 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟 I do understand now how women go cheat on their husbands while they are away. Being lonely is hard very hard especially when you have children to because you have to explain over and over and over and over where daddy is and why he isn't there. Just remember that he is doing this for the family. His efforts are not in vain. Those of us that stay strong and hold the house down show them that we appreciate everything they do for us. To those that went out and cheat well there is always a woman out there that will appreciate what you took for granted.
  OK ok ok back to my point. I say all my feelings because I need a friend that will encouraging my and just listen to me to just be there so I can cry and not make it seem like I am over reacting. But how do I all my friends that this is what I need without sounding needy lol. I'd that made sense lol. Me personally tell people don't be shy or embarrassed to ask me I don't mind being there while you have a melt down I won't judge. So I think do I have that kind of friend? Can I just say I am on the verge of a melt down can you help me. And what will they think of me if I walk up and say that?  And at some point do I have to ask? Don't they know being without a husband is hard and figure I am going through it and just come up and comfort me and encourage me without having to ask?  Who knows but I know once I find someone to have my melt down with I will look at my friends and find out who can I help.      
              Let's take a look at or friends and other around us, those are who is going through it but don't know how to or won't ask for encouragement. Let's see what we can do to help them and get them through this melt down. Like I said I am going to go help my friends but first I have to help myself. So my prayer is to open hearts that we as ladies, mothers, women of God go and help those who just need a person to sit as they cry it out. That our hearts will want to help others that we won't be able to sleep till we go and just let them know look I ain't leaving till you have your melt down lol
              Have a good night 😎

I don't need to do it to get other's approval

So as many of you know I have started to work out with my sis. I go to planet fitness because i dont need to be judged or checked out as I work out lol. No I don't wear any cute work out clothes or have my hair in a cute ponytail. I wear whatever I can sweat in comfortably lol. We do what we can and have a good time. We don't need to go work out where all the guys are actually we avoid that area lol. We finally found a good time to go when there isn't a lot of people hehe.
        I do notice that when I tell people I started to work out they think I do it to see fast results but I don't. I don't wanna meal plan at all to me it's so blan to eat the same thing over and over again. I enjoy my eating habits and well it hasn't killed me yet and I am almost 30 but mentally I feel 50 lol.I do know once iI start to eat healthy I will get sick its a fact. Any who back to "seeing results" right away justiisn't for me. I have noticed that people go work out and want a good body to show it off or the get other people's approval and to be honest more power to them. If I think a girl looks good and works out and meal plans for her body I compliment her because she looks good and she worked hard to look good.However I have notices that the song says baby got back and all they girls dancing in music video are not skinny they all have junk in the trunk. The only person I need approval from loves all my curves and battle scars from having his kids ;). I also see girls posting pictures of themselves half naked as a married woman I don't approve if you work out to have a good body the only person that should see your half naked pictures is your husband. Now if your single show it girl but have some self respect and keep some to the imagination we don'twanna know the change you have in your back pocket lol. Same goes with guys if you have to post a picture with your shirt off keep it to your wife ;) On the other hand before I get bombed on lol showing your progress is fine. One picture once a month or even twice but everyday and in your underwear is no no. Yes I am guiltyof taking a selfie at the gym with my sis -I love to take pictures and we ain't half naked in them so ha lol.
          Yes we should all encourage each other those of that work out or even change eating habits because that's a big step in life. Its a hard choice all together and it gets hard and not everyone has a support system so if we could encourage one another and tell them to keep going more and more people will start to reach their goals and not give up. Not everyone can just jump in it and give everything up and become healthy over night {me being one of them lol} so don't get mad because someone works out slower than others and don't wanna see results right away encourage them to not give up. As for me you can count on me to encourage you and to be in your corner to "cheer" you on. :)