Tuesday, July 7, 2015

Not an expert on relationships

I was watching Divas this evening. For this of you that don't notice it's about the WWE wrestling girls, they are called divas lol. But anywho so there is this one lady on there who her marriage *to another professional guy wrestler* isn't quite working out. To the point where he tells her that whenever she is around she make his mood depressed and that once they go through the curtain it's all an act. So needless to say they don't talk, or even live together. She ends up having issues with her dad and talked with him to help her dad out. He does but then he leaves her afterwards. But before he leaves he hugs her and tells her he loves her. That's where I have to come in.
    I don't get why men do that. Yes not only men but  women too.  They leave walk out of your life, end things and want to break up or no longer want to be with you and want a divorce. But yet every now and then they come around in your life flirt with you, tell you your beautiful, or help you out with things which gives you a little pinch of hope that maybe they really want to work things out with you. When you ask can we work this out or ask if there is hope for you two they tell you no or I don't know. I mean come on!!! They are just playing with you and your emotions!! They want to see if they still have ahold on you either that or that want to keep you close. Oh but not to close where they want you back but to the point where you don't move on either. Where they don't want you but they don't want anyone else to have you either.
    Now don't get me wrong I am no expert on relationships but I have had my share of them. I did those things that I mentioned. No I am not proud of that at all and yes as I grew up I learned BIG TIME! But I also know where I am not wanted in a relationship as well. I will not mess around with someone's emotion. I know people will say easy for me to speak I am married. But honestly if my husband wants to leave he can *but it better be a darn good reason too or till death do us part* I know all the signs of a relationship that is doomed and a relationship that is worth fighting for. I try and give advice from what I been through and what I have done, and how I have used people. I don't just talk out of my butt but I talk from experience.  So when I see people doing that to others and these people are close to me I have to say hey look I know the tricks cuz I have done them, get out now there is nothing left in that relationship. I have been in the position as well where I wanted a relationship to stay together so bad I would do anything but in reality there was nothing good left. I want you to understand that won't be your last relationship and that won't be your only relationship.  You don't have to stay and be miserable, you can get out and be woth someone that is worth fighting for or that will fight for you. Don't think that life ends when your relationship ends it's making you a better person for the next better relationship that's coming to you. If I thought that way I would be dead because I would have stayed in an adusive relationship. I would have the husband, kids and life I have now. So just because one bad relationship ends doesn't mean that's the end it means a better one is on the way. And if that person walks out of your life let them leave. If that person says over and over they are done and want nothing to do with you tell them bye and let them go. Someone better is waiting for you. Your never stuck and you never know what's in your future if your to busy holding on to the past. Or your to busy holding on to something that is broken and not fixable.